Bad Boys or Trouble Makers & Me. 

I do have a thing for trouble. I get myself in trouble all the time. I’ve always been a little bit rebellious myself. The tattoos, the piercings (now mostly removed), the attempts to be tough. I class this stage as my mid 20’s crisis. Or my quarter life crisis. 
Although I think I’m still in that stage, as I have no idea what I want to do with my life, I’m still waiting for “things” to happen & not making them happen myself. But I do realise that, so maybe that’s the first step of change? 

I attract jerks, this is common knowledge. Sometimes I only have myself to blame because of the “type” of guys I go for. I have a thing for bad boys, or trouble makers, or those with colourful pasts. Sometimes it’s because I like to think I can “fix” someone. It’s like a challenge or a mission that I set. Yup lesson learnt ten fold. People don’t really change. You either accept them as they are, or you move on. 

I think it’s easier to break these into categories. 

The independent guys with mummy issues. 
These guys can be tricky. Sometimes they are all “I’ve been independent since birth I don’t need no woman” sort of attitude. Which is difficult when I’m a very giving person, do anything for you sort of girl. I don’t like being taken advantage of, but I do like doing good deeds. So let me. I appreciate you are independent so am I (sort of). But letting your guard down won’t kill you. Not all women are out to get you, or are we out to rule your life. 
I once went out with a guy, who was a little bit younger then me. Although much bigger then me, he had a few tattoos & piercings. One of those tattoos was for his mother who had passed away when he was in early high school, he had her birth date tattooed across his heart. The same birth date as me 24^th May (Ok the year was different) When I saw it, I told him this. He cried. He then didn’t speak to me for two weeks. I was annoyed and asked him what was up, he told me this wasn’t going to work out, but would I like to sleep with him on random occasions when he invited me over when he felt like it. I politely declined. 

The Stoners 
These guys can be draining. I don’t care what other peoples after hours activities are. However you can’t expect me to be in your life if you are off your face all the time. I am pretty sure I will start to doubt your judgement etc. 
I can’t even discuss specifics about this guy or it will no doubt get back to him. But he was someone who would rather get stoned then do anything else. I didn’t even date him. I was trying to “educate” (ie: change) him & show him there is a whole world out there & people to socialise with & there’s bands to go see & places to go eat. Sitting at home being stoned watching South Park is not my idea of a fun time. I don’t even like South Park when I’m sober. Isn't that just sort of depressing? I am pretty sure I am out of my "woe is me" stage (mostly). Also , no I won’t lend you $50 until pay day as I know what you are going to do with that $50. I also won't come over late at night to "hang out". I know what that means.. the answers no.

The Drunks aka the midnight callers 
Just because you are drunk does not give you the right to call me for a lift at 2am. If you are my boyfriend and we have been together, sure I will do what I can for you. But if we aren't together & you don’t even have the decency to invite me out for a drink with you, but then call me when you’re drunk & ready for a lift. The answer is not going to be a Yes. I also don’t need you to tell me how much you love me when you're drunk & its after midnight. This is not appropriate. Especially if we have really hung out a few times. Also saying something like "I THINK I might be attracted to you" is not going to get you anywhere. I had an ongoing saga recently, where I was trying to give someone a chance who really didn't deserve a chance. During the week he was single, then of a weekend when he was drunk he was in love with me, but only after midnight when it was time for a lift. This also meant trying his chance at "sleep overs". Again, I know what this means.. the answers no.


So I guess in short, the bad boys just want one thing.. & it's apparently not my amazing conversation skills or awesome jokes.. all of these guys have had one thing in common. Tattoos &/or piercings. So maybe I need to stay away from that "type".